5 Principles For Recovery
1. Commitment to integrity. ”telling the truth about yourself is the most concrete, active step
you can take in the process of finding real love.” Greg Baer.
2. Commitment to affirming worth, and showing genuine compassion. Compassion, from latin,
compati ‘suffer with.’ Compassion is a desire to remove the suffering from another person. (Not
to be confused with codependency.) Understanding, “we must look deeply in order to see and
understand the needs, aspirations and suffering of the ones we love.” Thich Nhat Hanh, teachings
on Love. Conscious effort to validate the good in others and show appreciation for the value
3. Commitment to growth. Ideal growth happens together. Encourage, help, inspire, and desire
growth in others. Simultaneously develop yourself, not by bringing others down, but seek
knowledge with application untto understanding for personal growth. Big me + little you = no
growth. Little me + big you = no growth. You = Me = growth.
4. Commitment to Agency. Being free from addiction will increase agency. Addiction takes
away our ability to choose and restricts freedom in life. Do not blame others, instead take
responsibility for our actions.
5. Commitment to trusting your instincts and own intuitive responses. Meditation and increased
self-awareness will increase the application of the first 4 principles. Learning to be at peace and
how to tune into that channel will generate more understanding of others and less fear of
rejection. These principles and concepts are taken and adapted from a course provided by Dr.
Keven Skinner in a 6 week class on Intimacy. “Kevin Skinner, Ph.D., LMFT, CSATC.” Addo
Recovery. N.p., n.d. Web. 19 June 2016.