Codependency and Addiction with D.J. Burr
In this episode, recovery coach and author D.J. Burr and host Josh Hall dive into several topics, including self-care, surviving sexual abuse, codependency and addiction, and the freedom that comes with recovery.
“Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship with yourself that is typically manifested with other people.” – D.J. Burr, LMHC, NCC, S-PSB
D.J. gives specific examples of what codependency looks like and how it manifests in simple daily activities, such as having a simple conversation.
D.J. Burr himself is the host of two podcasts Journey On: Men Healing from Sexual Abuse & Assault and Making an Addict.
In D.J. Burr’s book, “I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Codependent, Sex and Love Addict“, he tells his story of recovery from sexual abuse, codependency and addiction.
ARE YOU CODEPENDENT? (Questions from DJ’s Book)
·Did you have a less-than-nurturing, abusive, or neglectful childhood?
·Were you responsible for others’ well-being or happiness?
·Do you control others to feel safe?
·Do you deny your feelings?
·Do you avoid conflict?
·Do you fear abandonment?
·Do you struggle with low self-esteem?
·Do you place others as a priority and not yourself?
·Do you have a history of dysfunctional relationships?
·Do you know what your needs are? Your wants? What about your hopes? Your dreams?
People suffering from Codependency can find help in Codependents Anonymous (CoDA), or by contacting us directly.
D.J. and Josh also speak about Sex and Love addiction. When D.J. decided to attend his first sexual addiction recovery meeting, he found a 40-question self-examination form. From this form, D.J. discovered that he was not only just codependent, he was also a sex and love addict. Like other addictions, sex/love addiction serves as a means of escape. Help can be found in 12-step programs such as Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) or, again, by contacting us directly.